For years K.J. and I dealt with our issues within our home, with only the support of a few family and friends. Our issue with infertility, post-deployment issues and other marital issues, were things that we sometimes silently dealt with. Recently we decided to make our story known. We collectively decided that it was time to use our experience, wisdom and trials to attempt to help other families that may also be suffering silently. The decision to open ourselves up to the world and to allow others in was not an easy one. We carefully considered the effects that this decision could have on our marriage, on our children and on other’s perceptions of us. As a couple, we surely did not take the decision lightly.
Last year I began my blog and this past February we started our show “Family Matters with Kenny and Kwajalein”. To say that this path we have begun has shown us a lot about ourselves and others would be an understatement. Definite changes have come about within our relationship as well as in our family. We can truly say that this decision has changed our lives in more ways than one. With all that being said my husband and I have made a decision, a rather big decision, we are deciding to separate!
Yes, we are separating. We have made a choice to distance ourselves from people and things that have no positive influence on our lives. We are separating from choices that have caused us to move back instead of ahead. My husband and I are leaving behind those things of the past that have kept us in bondage and distress. Yes, we are separating. We are moving away from habits that cause us to be stagnant instead of progressing. We are leaving behind oppressed mentalities that cause us to see ourselves opposite of how God sees us. As we stepped out into the ministry God gave us and started to tell our story we began to see how blessed we truly are. We have gained a better understanding of ourselves and our marriage; although, we are far from perfect this journey has brought us closer together. We have a different appreciation for God, our marriage, our kids and our lives. So yes, we are separating!
“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)